Saturday, February 25, 2012

Love Me, Hate Me, Your Choice

     Hello friends, once again I have my husbands family hurt me, why do I let what they say hurt my feelings? Me who believes that if someone is bad for keep them away from you. But damn it hurts when you hear they  talk about you behind your back! I've done so much for them. I'm tired of dealing with all of their shit, I'm tired of being hurt.
    I'm mad and hurt but you know what? I'm mostly mad at myself. Why do I have this need to prove to everyone that I worthy of being treated right?That I'm good and loveable? Seriously one can only blame their parents for so long before you have to take responsibility for your own life.
    I try never to hurt anyone with my words or actions, I know I'm sensitive to other peoples feelings and emotions. On the other hand I know I can be bitchy and don't put up with peoples shit. And I really don't do well when people bitch and complain about the same thing over and over again. Either fix it or stop whining, I even say that to myself.
    So here's the facts: No one can make you feel bad,hurt, angry etc unless you allow them to. And I'll be damned if I let them make me feel bad about myself any longer. Not everyone is going to like me, and that's OK cause I don't like everyone either. And though I would like not to ever see them again it's not possible because of my husband. I can control how they treat me, I will not allow any one to treat me bad.
   Now about the blog hop I think it's a really cool idea, if your doing it to meet new people and really like their blog, but I don't get doing it just to get more follower's, cause just because they put their name on your blog doesn't mean they'll come back and read it or comment on it. so whats the  point?
   If I follow you then I will be reading your blog. And I really can't stand it when someone just leaves their URL and that's it. Um I won't be following you. I take the time to read at least two of yours and leave you a well thought of comment. I want to know who I'm following. I want to know you, not just your name.
    I think the bottom line is, I can't and won't let what others think and say about me effect how I feel about myself. They don't know me, they don't know what my life is about, the people I help the things I do.
    Enough already! On IN MY GARDEN I finally wrote the second half of ground covers. I would love any suggestions for an article or questions you might have. Don't forget tomorrow is Sunday Funny's day! Have a good weekend everyone! Until we meet again............


FoxyMoron said...

Get me started about inlaws, I could write a book on my 18+ years with mine. I believe if they treat you badly it's up to your husband to step in, but of course mine didn't and most don't.
I just stay away from mine as much as I can and grin and bear them when I have to.
Sorry they hurt you Nat, you ARE a good and kind person. When people treat you badly it's more about them than about you, but you know that deep down, and it's okay to feel hurt too. Just remember all the people who love you and see you for what you really are.
I could care less about anyone following my blog, I write for me, one day it will be a record for my kids of their lives, but the lovely people I've met along the way are certainly a welcome and happy bonus!

Renee Sullivan said...

It's very sad to hear that your husband's family is not treating you well. What is your husband's response to that?

You hit the nail right on the head when you said "I am the only one who allows someone to hurt me." That is very true. It's good that you are able to vent. It really does help. I've had to do that with my close friends who love and accept me for who I am.

On the other note...I also completely agree that I do not follow anyone who just pastes their URLs. I make a point of writing meaningful comments. If I don't have anything meaningful, then I don't write anything at all. I expect the same in return for people who comment on my blog.

Design yourself a good day!
Take Care,

Intricate Knot said...

Natalie, you deserve to be treated with respect and courtesy (bare minimum). And you’re right; no one can hurt us without our permission. Doesn’t mean it’s easy to ignore people’s misbehavior though! But the truth is, the way they treat you says nothing about you and everything about them. They’re the ones with the problem and they're the ones missing out.

Oh, and I totally agree with you about bloggers who just leave their URLs etc. I even had one that said, “I’m following you. Now follow me.” Seriously?? It was more demand than invitation. Guess it must have worked for her most of the time though, because she had like 2000+ “followers.” Whatever!

insomnia said...

I can't stand that type of comment either and I usually delete those comments. I'm not big on deleting comments, just those with a URL to a blog. It's just tacky.
As for 'in laws' if you can call them that, they are in Puerto Rico and I have never had the pleasure of a face to face nor do I ever plan on one.
From what I Have heard of them from the girl's dad, they are hill people that have huts with dirt floors with multiple addiction issues and are abusive, so...not my cup of tea.

Susan said...

It may be the no one can make us feel bad without us allowing them, but I think it's human nature to allow them, even if it's subconsciously. I'm so glad that you've decided to not let them get to you as much. Keep on fighting! Looking forward to reading more from your blog!

My name WAS Female, I shit you not! said...

Having had IN LAWS FROM HELL.... when I was married to a momma and daddy's boy....I certainly can relate to that kind of hurt.
Miserable people just try to make others miserable too. Screw em!


remember what I told Bob? that's a great attitude to take..ha

Nichole Hubbard said...

Hey Natalie! Thank you for your kind words on my blog! I love this post. I try to read everyone that I follow too... if I can remember how I followed them! LOL