Friday, December 30, 2011

The good, the bad and the sometimes ugly.

         I've been thinking about what I wanted to write about today. I'll be honest, I'm a little pissed at my friend. We met for coffee and once again the whole conversation was about her. It always is. Her and her problems. Now don't get me wrong, I'm a good friend. I will be there there for you. I'm the one they call at 3 am. I love people. Never would I hurt someone on purpose. I think I'm compassionate, nonjudgmental, and I don't care what your religious,nationality,sexual or color is. I'm everyone's cheerleader. That being said I can't stand being around stupid people. And I'm not talking about low
 IQ's either.

         If everyone would realize they are where they are because of choice's they made and stop blaming others this world would be a better place. I know bad things happen to good people, believe me I know. Things we don't have any control over, after this year how could I not know that? But it's what you do after the bad thing happens that's important. You can't control other people or what they do, you can only control how you react to the situation. I'm so sick of people whining about shit, but not doing anything about it, just laying there feeling sorry for them self's. DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! It's not like I'm talking out my ass. I've had bad shit happen to me, I've gone through crap I've been the abused wife, I've been the single mom with three kids ( 3 kids under four at 23 years old) more crap then you all want to hear or know. The point is I could have laid there and felt sorry for myself, how would that have helped me or my children? After the stuff with Gloria(sorry it's hard to say rape) it was so hard, so hard, and until I had you guys my fellow blogger's I didn't talk about it with anyone except our counselor. I could have laid there under the blankets and hid. Believe me there were times I wanted to, but I had a daughter who needed me and other kids. What I'm trying to say is do what ever it takes but get yourself up, brush yourself off and face the fucking world and dare them to hurt you again. Feeling sorry for yourself helps nothing. Fix the problem. Deal with it and then move on.  Fake being strong until you are.

       OK off my soap box now! I was so mad and tried of the weight of her problems. Life is hard sometimes, it really does suck at times. But there really is more good out there than bad, happiness is a choice you make, not something someone can give you. There are great people out there, I know I've met some of them here, blogging, who'd have thunk it?

         Sorry for that ranting people, feel free to rant back! Happy New Years to those of you that live across the sea! I appreciate you all and blessings I send to all of you. Until next time.......

5 comments:

RainbowGypsy said...

You have good reason to unload all of that I think that we all need to be more focused on creating the change we want this world to be. It is so easy to get caught up in negativity and people that only want to continue to stay in the same place they say they hate...

You have quickly become a good friend and sister of my heart and I wanted you to know that I am always near in spirit.

Know I am holding you and yours close in my heart...

Brightest Blessings

YELLOWDOG GRANNY said...

I am a rude bitch..I have a very good friend..who when you have a conversation with her..it's all about her and her job, the people she works with, they don't do this, they do that..every fucking conversation ..finally I asked her if she was going to quit her job or was looking for another one? she said no..I said then shut the fuck up about your job..I don't give a fuck and no one else does either.
she still talks to me..but not about her job.

FoxyMoron said...

I don't know who sent you to me Natalie but I'm so glad they did. :) I really needed to read this today, I am often the one sitting around whining but not DOING anything.
2012 is the year for action.
Hope your year is wonderful!

Hermit Witch said...

You are so right Natalie. We are in control of our own lives,it just takes some people longer to realise that. Bad things do happen to good people, but the way we cope with the bad things can change our life for the better. I've learned now that I need to talk and share but then Move The Hell On! There are things I don't want or need to drag around with me. And since I realised that I've found that some of the worst things I've experienced have led to some of the best.
Bright Blessings to You and Yours for the coming year.

Aine said...

I had this same situation and finally I just had to stop communicating with this person.

We have known each other for a while, but our schedules and now distance made it so that we mostly communicated by phone. She has been through a lot in her life and I've heard all the stories. Then her husband died suddenly and I sent her some money to help her out. She has ongoing health issues. like you, I've had my troubles too - plenty of them, but when we talked, she never wanted to hear about my stuff, good or not so good.

During the last conversation we had, I listened to her and then I made it about me on purpose. I talked and talked and she was SILENT. So I finally woke up, made and excuse to go and hung up the phone. And that was the end.

I don't feel bad because I'm not punishing her, I'm honoring myself. I deserve better than this. There are plenty of other friends out there - real ones. I'm sure she has other people who will listen to her. I've done my time. I deserve to have good relationships, fair relationships. And so do you.